“A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he afford to let alone” — Henry David Thoreau
Not the least of which “things” are beliefs and ideals, ought to’s and should haves, fears, and maybe even loves, too. It is good to have these, if for no other reason than to watch them float away like clouds. What “is” may not be as important as what “may be,” since we are not scientists but poets.