Qualia is like Baby Bear’s bed, which was neither too soft nor too hard in the story of Goldilocks, but “just right.”
Matter is too soft or too hard. Reality, too, as it is commonly sensed, is too soft or too hard. That is, reality as it is perceived by people. Other beings, having evolved to live in harmony with ecosystems, may find that reality, though harsh at times, is pretty much just right.
Of course, thumbed, upright, and big-brained, we have grown out of harmony our planet, and hence, it always seems too hard or too soft for us.
Everything is either annoying, like a rock you stub your toe against, or it is too easy, like the convenience of fast food. Neither is healthy.
But Qualia, and being Qualiadelic makes everything just right.