An addict is always up or down at one end or the other of the see-saw. He is never in balance for long. There is no “something greater” in his thoughts beyond satisfying the craving; and there is no center because he is dependent upon matters outside of his control.Continue Reading

When needs are being met, then Interest and Participation levels are in balance; and when needs are not being met, then Interest and Participation levels are not in balance. But there is something more to balanced Interest and Participation levels. They free us up to notice new qualia. Like standingContinue Reading

We started with the premise that women are after conversation as addictively as men are after sex (if you will allow for somewhat scientifically-backed stereotypes). In the last post, the husband learns to let his wife guide him through her conversational landscape. In this post, it has begun to occurContinue Reading

The intersecting landscapes of husbands and wives cause lots of problems. Often, as the rose colored honeymoon fades into the past, spouses can feel a little too familiar with their partner’s inner landscapes. Often, they freely express the qualia that reveals itself to them; but the husband doesn’t want toContinue Reading

Love is not the Big Dopamine experience, full of romance and adventure, about which we have been taught by the movies. This is the popular idea of love, and the way so many of us struggle with it, and crave it, it is more of an unhealthy addiction than aContinue Reading